Separate your Feelings from the Facts
If you feel you are being bullied because of someone’s actions towards you or someone’s communication is just “not right”, try to look at the situation rationally and objectively. To help you do this start to record everything but make sure you separate your feelings from the facts.
Facts of the Situation
- Where it happened?
- When it happened?
- What happened?
- Who was there at the time?
- Why do you believe it happened?
Feelings of the Situation
- What you felt physically eg Heart racing, tense, changes in your breathing, changes in your voice, dry mouth.
- What you felt emotionally eg panic, fear, worry, nervousness, anxiety.
Recording the situation and separating your feelings from the facts will help you to take control of the situation. It will also give you balanced evidence to share with the potential bully and/or share with others that can support you.