2.Dump your inner critic (Senses)
Let’s start with a question – Who do you listen to the most?
You may have said your partner, sibling, parent or a friend but the person you listen to the most, the person whose words you hear most regularly is YOU.
Now that’s good if the words you tell yourself are resourceful words that help you maintain a resourceful state of mind. But most of us have an inner critic that share words and phrases such as:
- “I can’t do that”
- “Today is going to be a nightmare”
- “That person gets on my nerves”
- “I’ll never get this done in time”
Whether we like it or not we all have an inner critic , BUT we do have a choice whether we listen to our critic or not. It can be a challenge to stop listening to that inner critic so the easiest way to “dump” your inner critic is to “date” your inner coach. We can do this by asking ourselves questions that will shift us to a more resourceful state. Here are some examples of “inner coach” questions to shift your state of mind.
- What specifically do I want to achieve/to think?
- What is stopping me? (Look for barriers, limiting beliefs)
- What would happen if I could? (Introduce possibility)
- What would happen if I did? (Introduce reality)
- What would happen if I didn’t? (Introduce consequences)
If you want more information on this, please refer to my third article in this series 5 Ways to Self Coach.