Dealing with disappointment
When you have been dealt a disappointment in the past such as failing something or not achieving something you went for, how long do you spend being disappointed? Do you accept it, learn from it and move on or do you pack it away in your metaphorical rucksack, lug it around and bring it out every so often to share with others?
One of the many lessons in Daniel Golmans book is –
“Don’t ruminate when you are sad, distract yourself instead”
He has four simple suggestions to distract you:
- Exercise – as well as distracting you it produces an endorphin boost.
- Complete small tasks – a sense of achievement can help shift your mood.
- Reframe the situation – ask yourself what can you learn from this disappointment to help you move forward?
- Help others – a focus on doing something for others will not only distract but help you feel good about you too.