Over the last few years I feel our profession has got better at being open when things go wrong and creating a culture of continuous quality improvement. We readily record and review “Near Misses”, discuss contributory factors and agree next steps to prevent the same thing happening again.
If only we could take the same approach with ourselves and admit when we are struggling, have got things wrong and don’t know the answer. I have coached many senior people in organisations that feel they have “Imposter syndrome”, they shouldn’t be in the job they are in and hold back from being honest with their teams in case they are perceived as weak.
I have helped each of those clients be honest with themselves and supported them to have the courage to share their vulnerability with others and in EVERY situation they have felt so much better about themselves and relationships have improved. Some of the questions that I have asked them are:
- What is holding you back from being honest?
- What would need to happen for you to be truly honest with your colleagues?
- What will happen if you are not honest with your team?
- What do you need to help you to share openly what you are feeling?
In her fascinating TED talk, “The Power of Vulnerability” Brene Brown a Research Professor in Houston describes how being open and sharing your vulnerabilities isn’t always comfortable but clearly demonstrates courage.
Brene’s TED talk may not be everyone’s cup of tea but there are some great messages around having the courage to be imperfect and the compassion to be kind to yourself. Click on the link and see what you think.
Thanks so much for taking the time to read this article and good luck in developing your Emotional Intelligence.
That’s it for the Five Ways to Series for 2018. Thanks for all the feedback and I look forward to sharing future plans for the series in 2019. In the meantime, if anyone wants to find out more about anything in this article or has any comments please get in touch via the details below.
“Emotional Development is Quality Improvement (QI) of the Mind.”
Jill Cruickshank is a Coaching and Development Consultant at Leading2Solutions, is qualified in NLP and CBT and is a Community Pharmacist.